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Not long ago, I was chatting with a friend when we drifted into an unexpectedly interesting question. We asked each other:
“Do you currently have someone you truly admire…like someone who could count as a life role model?”
I paused and thought. A few faces came to mind.
They differed in profession, age, and position in life, yet they shared one clear common trait:
Each of them hold a definite ultimate direction in their lives.
That direction is not always grand or world-changing. Sometimes it is simply about completing one or two personal projects.
But the key is not the size or prestige of the goal. The key is that they genuinely recognize it as their own, and are willing to walk toward it step by step.
Not because society tells them that this is what “success” looks like.
Not to win their parents or anyone’s nods at dinner.
Not to pad a LinkedIn profile with shiny bullet points.
But simply because —
it is what they themselves want to do.
I love watching someone talk about what they truly care about: the way their eyes light up, their voice cracks a little, their whole face softens…
That spark, simple yet steady, always makes me think from the bottom of my heart:
“God…this person is truly alive…”
For a long time in the past, I didn’t have anyone like that to look up to.
Sure, I admired many people and sincerely respected their abilities and qualities. But I never once thought, yeah, I want to live like that.
It wasn’t until I found my way back to reading and writing, and started putting my thoughts out there. For real that something inside me began to shift.
Through books and podcasts, I stumbled upon more and more creators, people who weren’t necessarily famous, but who were clearly doing their thing with conviction.
Watching them move forward, fail, adjust, and still keep shining through their own stories hit me harder than I expected.
Without noticing it, my inner reference points gradually increased.
The outline of who I want to become slowly came into focus and I also realized that…
Having a role model isn’t about copying someone else’s highlight reel. It’s about remembering, especially when you’re lost or second-guessing everything, that the path itself doesn’t matter as much as this:
staying brutally honest with yourself.
New year or not, nobody’s coming to hand you your direction on a silver platter. If you’ve got a North Star, even it’s messy, half-formed, start walking toward it.
Clumsy steps count. Doubt is allowed. Detours are guaranteed.
And if you don’t have one yet, that’s fine too. Your only real job is to keep looking honestly, paying attention to what actually moves you, not what impresses people, not what looks good on Instagram.
This might be the year you find it. And if you do, don’t just admire it from a distance.
Take action.
【北極星】
前陣子和朋友閒聊，聊到一個很有意思的話題，我們問彼此：
「你現在心裡有沒有很崇拜的人？那個足以當成人生 role model 的人？」
我想了想，腦中浮現幾個面孔。他們職業、年齡、、所處的位置都不一樣，卻有一個明確的共通點：
他們心裡，都有一個明確的終極方向。
那個方向不一定多偉大、多厲害，有時只是完成一、兩個個人專案。
但關鍵不在於目標本身，而在於他們真心認可它，並且願意一步步往那裡走。
不是因為社會告訴他們這樣比較成功，不是為了讓誰安心或驕傲，更不是為了讓履歷更漂亮。
而單純只是因為——
他們自己想這麼做。
我很喜歡觀察一個人談起這些事情的樣子。雙眼發光、語氣些微顫抖，表情卻像孩子一樣。
那份熱忱，簡單卻十分堅定，讓我打從心底的想：
「天啊，這個人好好的活著啊。」
過去有很長一段時間，我沒有所謂的人生 Role model。
我欣賞很多人，也真心佩服他們的能力與特質，卻從未產生過「我想成為那樣的人」的渴望。
直到重拾了閱讀和寫作的習慣，也開始認真在社群上分享。
透過閱讀以及 Podcast， 我認識了越來越多創作者，看見他們帶著各自的故事前行、發光。
不知不覺，心中的參考座標慢慢多了起來。
我心中想成為什麼樣的人，那個輪廓，也逐漸清晰起來。
擁有 role model，並不是為了複製他們的人生。
而是在迷茫、受到質疑時，提醒自己：選擇哪條路不重要，重要的是，對自己保持絕對的真誠。
不管現在是不是新的一年開始，都不會有人把你的人生方向放在盤子上端給你。
如果你心中已經有了一顆北極星，哪怕它混亂、不完整，也請開始朝它走去。
儘管步伐笨拙、儘管自我懷疑、儘管多繞了很多路。
而如果你現在還找到，那也完全沒關係。
你現在唯一重要的任務，就是持續且誠實地尋找——
留意那些真正讓你心動的事，不只是那些讓人印象深刻的事，不是那些看起來很體面的事，更不是在 IG 上看似閃閃發光的事。
也許，今年就是你找到北極星的一年。
而如果你找到了，別只站在遠處欣賞。
行動吧。